Embracing the Realities of the Holiday Season
The Holidays
The holidays are often portrayed as a time when people feel happy and joyful, with little to no stress. This portrayal is common in movies, TV shows, books, our peers… and definitely those Coca-Cola commercials! However, the underlying truth about the holidays is that they aren’t always the best time for everyone. Many people feel alone because they perceive others having a stress-free and joyful experience while they are not. What many don’t realize is that others also share these feelings for various reasons—and it’s okay to feel this way!
What Are Common Stressors During the Holidays?
There is no single “correct” stressor because everyone experiences stress differently. Below are 10 of the most common holiday stressors and the reasons they can impact individuals and families:
Financial Stress: The pressure to buy gifts, host parties, and travel can strain finances, especially for those already struggling financially.
Loneliness and Isolation: The holidays can intensify feelings of loneliness, especially for those far from family or who have lost loved ones.
Family Conflict: Family gatherings may bring up unresolved conflicts or create new tensions. Differences in opinions, lifestyles, and values can lead to stress and disagreements.
High Expectations: Societal pressure to have a “perfect” holiday can lead to stress and disappointment. Unrealistic expectations can make people feel inadequate or unhappy.
Grief and Loss: The holidays often remind people of loved ones who are no longer here, intensifying feelings of grief and sadness.
Overcommitment: Juggling numerous events, parties, and obligations can lead to burnout and fatigue, leaving little time for self-care.
Changes in Routine: Disruptions to daily routines, including diet, exercise, and sleep patterns, can negatively impact physical and mental health.
Reflection on the Past Year: The end of the year prompts reflections on accomplishments and failures, which may lead to regret or anxiety about the future.
Holiday Eating and Drinking: Enjoying festive food and beverages can impact physical and mental well-being. Maintaining a balanced approach can help support overall health during this time.
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): Reduced sunlight and shorter days during winter can impact mood and energy levels, contributing to depression and anxiety.
Validating Your Feelings
There is no “right” or “wrong” way to feel during the holidays. Each person’s life experiences influence how they perceive this time of year. These feelings don’t mean you’ll feel this way throughout the entire holiday season, but it’s important to acknowledge and validate them. Everyone’s emotions are valid, and it’s okay to have mixed feelings.
Strategies for Coping with Holiday Stress
Managing holiday stress, especially if you feel overwhelmed, depressed, or anxious, involves finding effective ways to handle challenges while prioritizing self-care. Here are 8 strategies to help:
Set Realistic Expectations: Acknowledge your limits and accept that the holidays don’t have to be “perfect.” Learning to embrace imperfections and savor small moments can make the season more enjoyable.
Create Boundaries: Set limits with family and friends, and prioritize your needs. Taking breaks can protect your mental health and give you space to breathe.
Practice Self-Care: Engage in activities that help you relax and bring you joy. Whether it’s listening to your favorite song or reading a book, focus on what self-care means for you.
Manage Financial Stress: Stick to a budget. Focus on the thoughtfulness behind a gift rather than its cost. Handmade gifts can be meaningful and budget-friendly.
Honor Your Feelings: Acknowledge your emotions and practice mindfulness to stay present and grounded. Remember, it’s okay to feel however you feel.
Create New Traditions: If old traditions are painful, consider starting new ones that bring you peace while cherishing past moments.
Limit Social Media Exposure: Avoid comparing your life to others’ curated holiday posts on social media. Taking a break can foster gratitude for what you have.
Reach Out: Talk to trusted loved ones or a counselor. Having someone listen and understand can help alleviate feelings of loneliness or stress.
We’re Here If You Need Us!
At Anchoring Hope Counseling, we understand that the holidays can be challenging for many reasons. It’s important to know that you’re not alone and that help is available. Reach out to us for support as you navigate this season.
